When I started learning about personal finance, I felt accomplished opening my no fee chequing account and first credit card. I was a student then. I graduated, got my first apartment, then bought a house. We’re familiar with all those things growing up, if only indirectly. It’s exciting opening a bank account — to deposit your first pay check. You want to build up your credit score — credit card is an excellent starting point (let’s assume happy path and you don’t carry a balance). Purchasing your first house is the next logical step in society — we’re familiar with mortgages. Sure there’s a lot more to it. But those first steps aren’t scary. We’ve understood the concept, if at a high level since childhood and they’re attached to exciting things in our lives.
Memories of my first foray into finances, beyond the few exciting events, is generally associated with stress and anxiety. Stressed about filing taxes incorrectly. Anxiety I’ll owe more than anticipated. What about you? Most of us have had no exposure. Most adults in our lives don’t understand it, or don’t talk about it and it’s not taught in schools. So it feels like you’re walking through a fog. You can’t see where you’re going. If you’re about to trip on something. Sound travels differently and can be distorted…
Are you dreaming of spring? I know I am! This past weekend we were hit with another two day winter storm, which brought 2 inches of freezing rain, snow and winds. I grew up north of the city, so snow in April is hardly unusual. But I’m not living further north anymore, and even for Toronto, this is a bit ridiculous. My instagram feed is filled with wintry pictures from other bloggers. Normally it’s comforting knowing you’re not alone. But this time, no dice. So I’ve resorted to ridiculous, fun cocktails and daydreaming of container gardening. If you’ve ever wanted to try your hand at gardening, but are limited on space, or don’t have a yard, you’d be amazed at what you can do with containers!
Where did you learn about money? In North America, we’re generally not great at talking about finances. Next to sex ed, it’s probably one of the bigger taboo subjects –though I’m willing to bet one would seem much more interesting than the other as a teenager!
It’s considered inappropriate to discuss among friends, much less strangers. So if it’s not taught in schools or at home, how can you be expected to have confidence in managing your money? And if the lack of knowledge makes it complicated enough to sort things out solo, how do you manage things if you’re partnered? Each camp, solo or partnered, believe the other group have it easier.
“At least they have two incomes and share expenses. They have double the money to work with”.
“Budgeting is so hard. We have different opinions on where it should be spent. I’m a saver, they’re a spender. It would be easier if I had to answer to no one.”
Up here in the snowy north, we hunker down around December and mostly don’t stray too far until March or April until the snowy weather clears up a bit. So come late winter, I get cabin fever and am eager to stretch my travel legs at the first opportunity. What about you?
This year was unusual in that we planned a week in a sunny destination for the first time ever. We went to Barbados for some much needed sun and relaxation. Even so, the very next weekend happened to be easter. My Whymances home town friends have a tradition of holding a Good Friday BBQ that he hasn’t missed since it started a few decades ago. Between not wanting to miss that and the fact we hadn’t seen family and friends since the wedding in September or xmas, we booked a car last minutes… At the cost of $400! One of my goals was to reduce road trip expenses this year, so I felt we weren’t off to a good start!